I’ve seen enough people make radical changes in their lives (and have made enough in mine) to have 100% proof that you can change seemingly gigantic things in your life.
Want to make more money? I believe in you.
Want to lose weight? I believe in you.
Want to quit drinking? I believe in you.
Want to quit your job and move to a farm in the mountains? I believe you can do that too.
I believe that your ability to do things is only limited by your desire to do them.
Everyone has tried to do things and failed. Anyone with big enough dreams has fallen short of them again and again. That doesn’t mean you can’t do it, it just means that you didn’t want it enough.
So remove “can’t” from your vocabulary.
Instead of saying “I can’t,” say “I guess I didn’t want it enough.”
Because someday, you may want it enough. But as long as you keep telling yourself you can’t, you won’t try.
I’ll give you an example from my own life.
When Russ and I got married, we went a little crazy with the nachos and margaritas… to the tune of 40 lbs. Yep, I gained 40 lbs in about four months, and it was alarming.
I’d try to lose the weight — dabbling in Atkins (anyone who dabbles in Atkins knows it only gets you fatter), joining Weight Watchers, tracking calories — but I just loved nachos and margaritas too much. Any time I had the opportunity to have nachos and margaritas (and wine, and bread, and pasta, and pizza…), I’d somehow find the justification to do it.
I never said I couldn’t lose the weight, I just acknowledged that I didn’t want it enough.
But one day, I decided I did want it enough. And so I started writing three reasons I wanted to lose weight every morning. I didn’t diet, I just wrote down three reasons every day.
I wish I could tell you that I magically lost the weight without any effort. I didn’t.
In fact, writing down those reasons had zero effect on my weight at all. But it reminded me of why I might eventually want to lose weight.
So when my friend came along and had great results with the Whole30, my brain was open and willing to listen to options! I gave it a try, found it worked, and have lost 25 lbs so far. Effortlessly!
Side note: it wasn’t effortless at first, but I was so low energy and unmotivated to do anything that I was willing to put the effort into a new way of eating.
That’s the thing about goals
I’m passionate about setting goals. Even crazy goals — especially crazy goals!
Goals show you what you want to do if you’re not burdened under a wall of “can’t.”
Now, through December 1, I’m offering my goal workshop for free. It’s so important to me that you start setting goals and working toward them.
I know you can do anything you put your mind to, given enough time and a good enough perspective. Even if you have fallen short in the past, I still believe in you.
Let’s make 2017 the beginning of your best life.